Today is Mother’s Day.
I’ve thought long and hard about it and it’s not about giving my mother a day where I purchase things and treat her special for just this one day. It’s more about how I treat her all year and making sure that she knows how much I value her presence in my life. My mother is my best friend. I should make it a point every day to treat her accordingly.
My mother is a fascinating woman with a rapier wit and a very sharp sense of humor. I thought it would be fun to impart a little knowledge from the years and years of hilarious, informative and touching moments Mom and I have had together. They’re in no particular order:
“The less you do to your skin, the less you will ever have to do to your skin.” - I thank my mother every day for not letting me wear any makeup until I was 15 and even then it was minimal. I don’t really DO anything to my skin until it looks like it needs something. It’s not too late to adopt this philosophy.
“Only touch it once.” – When cleaning, organizing, working or basically going about your life, if you pick it up, you have to do something with it. Whatever it is, make it count.
“Organization is the key to happiness.” – Ugh. As a sometimes messy person, I fight this tooth and nail but it’s true. I don’t exactly make hospital corners when making my bed but my closet, drawers, makeup and bathroom are itemized down to the last shoe and in an order where I can get dressed in under 15 minutes. That, to me, is happiness.
“You can always judge the quality of a man by his shoes.” – Mom can’t actually take credit for this one: this was Grandpa’s lesson that he taught her and she passed it onto me. It doesn’t matter how much money a man has, if he’s got properly shined shoes it means that he minds the details and cares for things that are important. Every time I’ve disregarded this rule, I’ve been woefully reminded of the value of this advice.
“Always have a backup plan.” – This works for everything, I swear. If you’re planning on wearing a dress, make sure you have another handy in case something’s wrong with the first. Carry a different lip shade in case it looks wrong under different lighting. Have an alternative job in mind if the one you have isn’t working. This is also the reason I carry a $20 and an extra key in my bra on a date.
“Never let anyone treat you any less than I would.” – This is a hard one because my mother loves me a lot but it’s true. As I’ve gotten older, I’ll add to Mom’s rule: never let anyone treat you better or worse than you would treat yourself.
“Always mind your shoes and handbag.” - You can get away with discount clothing to a certain degree but cheap shoes and a poorly constructed bag are always easy to spot. Spend good money on the things that will carry you forever. Don’t fool yourself into thinking these things don’t matter. They do.
“Trust your little voice.” – A woman’s intuition is the most powerful force on Earth. We KNOW things. That nagging feeling is always right. ALWAYS.
“Don’t write checks with your mouth that your ass can’t cash.” - This is a Southernism that basically means don’t talk smack and then not be able to back it up.
“All I’ve ever wanted for you in life is for you to be happy.” – The best advice she’s ever given me. I’m actively working toward this goal every day. Thanks, Mom. Me too.
For all the moms, grandmothers, stepmothers, foster mothers and adopted moms out there, I’d like to thank you for all that you do. Today is a great opportunity for us to show you how much we love and appreciate you. For the women out there who really want to become mothers, I really hope you do because we need more women out there who WANT to be mothers.
And for my own mother, I’d just like to take a moment and tell you how deeply treasured you are. You are the sunshine that warms my heart every morning and the moon that makes it safe to sleep every night. Thank you for being a role model, my own personal fashion icon and the best friend a girl could have. I love you, Mom. Happy Mother’s Day.